My 44 year old cousin is getting married. She had always sworn up and down that she was so happy as a single woman. She has a very busy life as a writer. She has published about a half dozen young adult novels, has been nominated (or won) many awards.
Her last romantic chapter ended badly. She was living with a divorced man she had known for a long time. He had bought a beautiful house, fixed it up and she sold her place and moved in with him. Everything seemed wonderful except he travelled a lot to see his son in another state.
We never suspected anything was wrong. What a surprise when she told me one day that he had passed away about a month prior ! And, it turned out that there had been another woman, no son, and that he had also led a life of lies and deceit.
So... who ever thought she'd start posting on match.com and meet a guy and fall in love and get married????? I am actually really happy for her... but I can't help but look at my life and say, what do I want??? I AM (or was, pre-sciatica) a happy person, and if I was up and about and in a job I liked, I'd be happy with or without Alan. Alan and I actually have the relationship I always said was optimal -- separate homes. What if Alan did live with me??? In this condo, anyway, it would be mighty crowded!! Would we get along? We get along while travelling, but he has a different way of doing things -- and HE SMOKES. But he is neat and clean and knows how to do laundry and dishes, and we watch the same stuff on TV. he is much slower and more methodical than I am when he does things, but then all couples have to deal with those kinds of idiosyncracies. I think it would work... but he is not ready. After 2 years, I am not sure he will ever be ready...
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