What is Love

Our Discussion Topic for Today: What is Love????

I spent the better part of the weekend with Alan -- someone who started off, back in April, as wierd- single- guy- on- trip. So now, drinking wine and eating Candy Cane Oreos when I should be in bed, I am responding to my dear friend LadyHawke's request that I post on LifeJournal, but since no one else reads my blog/journal, I doubt I'll get many replies to this age-old question.

What is Love? How do you know if you are "in love" ? If someone ASKS you if you are in love and you can't say, is that a NO? If you feel an overwhelming desire to tell the object of your affection that you are in love, does that mean YES, or just that you are a complete IDIOT?

I spent many unhappy years with someone who was just so wrong for me - always judging me, and my friends, and the world in general. I felt like I was always banging my head against the wall, and now, I'm not. I'm as happy as when I first moved in here and was all alone and free to be ME, only better. This weekend is such a good example of how different this experience is and why I enjoy it so much.

Saturday, Alan and I:
* went to Shabbat services
* walked around Beacon Hill so that I could see Jen Niles exhibiting her artwork at an art fair.
* We walked around and looked in the stores on Charles Street.
* Stopped to have coffee... stopped to watch ice skaters at the public gardens.
* Alan even OFFERED to go see Happy Feet at IMAX and enjoyed it.

*Sunday. Alan:
* Read the Sunday paper with me and did the crossword
* Helped me try to string penguin lights in my living room.
* Watched March of the Penguins dvd and enjoyed it.
* Made me laugh over some silly private joke.
* Doesn't judge me for my house, my cooking, my cleaning, or anything else but likes ME for ME. Seems to respect my opinions on things, though they may be different from his. It's only been six months... and no one is perfect...

He is a little clueless about many things. But, on T-day, not only did his cousin sit me down on T-day and ask right out "do you LOVE him"??? but she apparently told him we should get married, which he promptly relayed to ME. I don't even know if I want to get married, so why should I care how it's defined, as long as it's good? Does LOVE matter?

I feel like Carrie Bradshaw... hmmm there's an option to "create a poll"... (on LiveJournal, but I've switched to Blogspot - no poll)